My simple answer is I don’t know.
My long answer is, it varies with every couple. No two couples are alike. And what works for one, doesn’t necessarily works for another. I have observed of course only the outside view of some of my married couple friends. And honestly, no 2 are alike. Each is unique, and we’re one of them. There are a lot of guides, self-help books, marriage encounters, advices that go around, and yes they are helpful, but no one can guarantee that it will work. Marriage is 50/50 now, as far as how it will end. It is 50/50 in terms of how each person should make it work. Marriage ends when both decide to end it, but if there are still doubts then it’s still worth a try to make it work.
Does it end when the couple fights a lot? Does it end when they hardly talk or acknowledge each other? Does it end when there’s no longer intimacy? Does it end when respect is gone? Does it end after infidelity? I can say that these things can happen but the marriage is not dead yet. Maybe it’s just in a rut. Maybe you just have to spend time to reconnect and bring back the love that has just been put in the back-burner. While other say marriage should be a breeze, it’s not applicable for everyone. Some marriages need more work, and some don’t. But no one should judge one’s marriage. It’s only the couple who are responsible for it. I believe that marriage is a mutual decision, and so is ending it.
My long answer is, it varies with every couple. No two couples are alike. And what works for one, doesn’t necessarily works for another. I have observed of course only the outside view of some of my married couple friends. And honestly, no 2 are alike. Each is unique, and we’re one of them. There are a lot of guides, self-help books, marriage encounters, advices that go around, and yes they are helpful, but no one can guarantee that it will work. Marriage is 50/50 now, as far as how it will end. It is 50/50 in terms of how each person should make it work. Marriage ends when both decide to end it, but if there are still doubts then it’s still worth a try to make it work.
Does it end when the couple fights a lot? Does it end when they hardly talk or acknowledge each other? Does it end when there’s no longer intimacy? Does it end when respect is gone? Does it end after infidelity? I can say that these things can happen but the marriage is not dead yet. Maybe it’s just in a rut. Maybe you just have to spend time to reconnect and bring back the love that has just been put in the back-burner. While other say marriage should be a breeze, it’s not applicable for everyone. Some marriages need more work, and some don’t. But no one should judge one’s marriage. It’s only the couple who are responsible for it. I believe that marriage is a mutual decision, and so is ending it.
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